Example, What Example?

Do you have a good example of what an awesome marriage looks like?

Let's be honest, very seldom do we see a marriage that we truly admire.  A marriage that displays deep caring, respect, honesty and hints of serving the other.  And, when we catch a glimpse of a couple that's too lovey-dovey, we cringe and snicker at their silliness.

Have you ever thought to ask these affectionate friends what makes them happy? Do you wish that a little of that would rub off on your marriage?

Personally, I'm drawn to couples like this because they build into my marriage.  What do I see in their example?

• Words of Affirmation... they don't put each other down in front of others

• Serving...there is a willingness to put their spouses needs above their own

• Touch...they kiss, hold hands and hug in front of others

• The Face...there aren't any scowling eyebrows, rolling eyes and snarling lips

• Connection...they frequently connect with other couples and do life with them.  They show up for others during difficult times. 

• Laughter...there seems to be a feeling of joy when you're around them with the sharing of funny stories and life experiences.

• Work...they work at their marriage.  They're not afraid to admit they go to marriage seminars or that they have been to a counselor for tune-ups.

• God...there is a deep connection to Him through individual times of prayer and weekly attendance in a church as well as serving others through ministry or volunteering.

Very seldom do I run into couples that exhibit these characteristics.

Can I dream of having a marriage that resembles these attributes?  I know I can, because God longs to give us the desires of our hearts. God wants us to have awesome marriages and not settle for average.

How can you best align your marriage to your dream marriage?

• Don't do marriage alone. 
• Seek out a mentor couple for an example of what an awesome marriage can be. They will fill you up when you're running on empty; provide wise counsel, and encouragement.  And best of all, they will pray for your marriage.