A New Kind of Purity - Anal Sex or Oral Sex

Couples — Even Christian couples — have come to believe that engaging in oral sex or anal sex is the way to maintain virginity and avoid pregnancy.

Hey, there's a reason it's called Anal Sex and Oral Sex — it's sex.

It's not a workaround solution to maintaining virginity.  It's still intimate, you're still naked, climax is still a real possibility and it's a very intimate way to share your sexuality with someone you're not married to.

There's a suggestion we lay out there to the couples my husband and I mentor.  Here goes:

What level of intimacy would you display in front of your parents, siblings or friends?  That should be the intimacy standard in your dating relationship.

By the way, pregnancy is still a possibility even when intercourse has not occured.  Sperm — even a man's clear pre-cum fluid — has a radar that often navigates it's way into the vagina, even through non-intercourse activity.

The ultimate way to safeguard your purity, if you honestly want to follow God's design for your relationship, is to keep the clothes on. 

There really is no "workaround" to maintaining purity.  Either you're pure or you're not.  It's a mindset of obedience to God.

Romans 12:2 — Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.

Comments

[ArmyReserveWife]

Thank you for being blunt. If this was taught in our churches wow!