I've Lost That Loving Feeling

As hard as it is to believe when you're walking down the aisle on your wedding day and heading off for a glorious honeymoon, there will come a day when you look at the person you've married and say, I've lost that loving feeling.

So what do you do when the feelings seem to disappear? Hang on with every ounce of strength you have!  There is a commitment that was made, a promise; one that means until death parts us.  This promise seems to be taken all too lightly in marriage vows today.  Our feelings about everything change on a daily basis.  Why should our feelings about our partner for life — that God has given us — not change too?

We long for that euphoria we first felt when dating and the butterflies in our stomach feelings.  Are they realistic for a lifetime?  What we often fail to do is look for our love and significance in Christ.  He is our first, second and third lifelines when we don't know the answers, when we are frustrated and when we don't like the person we've married at this time and moment.  As Christians, we are walking away from our marriages at an alarming rate.  We are to be the light of this world, and right now, we are not shining!!

• If you haven't gone on a date night in awhile, put one on your calendar every week.  If something else wants to interfere, learn to say no.
• Find a reliable babysitter.
• Go to places you visited on your first dates together, take walks, hold hands, kiss, snuggle and play footsie under the table at the restaurant.
• Enjoy a pizza on your bedroom floor with a tablecloth and candlelight.
• It doesn't have to be expensive.

When you've Lost that Loving Feeling, ask God to help you restore it one moment at a time, one second at a time, one minute at a time.  Sometimes we have to be the one to make the first move toward our spouse and keep trying.  It only takes one willing heart to change the course of a marriage.