Porn and How a Man's Wired

We recently interviewed Fred and Brenda Stoeker, co-authors of Every Heart Restored (from the Steven Arterburn Every Man series),

Increasingly, Growthtrac is hearing more about the devastating affect addictions have on marriage — particularly pornography.

The Stoekers shared research that says after a man is exposed to pornography for only six, one-hour sessions, sexual sin will begin to breakdown the hard and soft wiring of the male.

The husband begins to have less concern about his wife's satisfaction and sexuality and he begins to have a selfish view of what he's receiving sexually. As this begins to happen, that concept of passing intimacy back and forth during sex gets fried. He's not as concerned about passing intimacy as he is about gaining a strong intensity in the sexual experience. As that happens, he becomes broken sexually and is not able to do what God wanted sexuality to do.

Look for the Stoker's interview soon on Growthtrac.

Comments

[Cheryl]

I can agree fully with the harm that pornography does to marriages and families. Our family is proof that porn use damages the family relationships, and often causes physical and emotional abuse to the wife and children. All children should be taught the dangers of pornography at a fairly young age, and our church leaders need to realize the damage that porn can do to marriages. All too many times it is ignored and excused with the words, "All men and boys look at that stuff", or similar comments. Unfortunately, we are seeing that the boys and men who do view pornography are reaping bitterly what they have sown when they are young.

[Michael Sammy]

How can we reconcile the quest to gratify the flesh with the command to mortify our members ?